11th June 2008
Well, what a response! Thanks to everyone who responded to the ‘Five phrases to avoid’ article, whether supportive, enquiring or critical. It seemed to touch a nerve.
Many of the responses to the article asked for suggestions regarding language patterns that can help, and the alternatives to the five phrases not to use.
Shoulds and musts are directive and confrontational. They impose change. Often (and not always) the team member has some of the answers in front of them already, it’s just that they can’t see them.
Smart team leaders ask good questions that are directed towards a specific outcome. When team leaders sit alongside call centre staff, or listen in to calls, there is a set of question types that can help raise awareness. When we give individuals the freedom to think for themselves, in a guided format, we allow them to create their own possibilities.
Some of the following conversational ‘prompts’ have the effect of opening up possibilities for a team member.
What about when the team member gets stuck? Sometimes team members will be frustrated with their own performance and resort to “I just can’t do it” thinking.
A powerful language pattern technique that works really well is Can’t to Can™ pattern.
This is how it works:
Ask the first ‘freedom question’ to raise the topic of possibility: “What would happen if you could do that thing you say you can’t?”
We’re looking for benefits here – what would be the benefit of being able to do that thing? It is quite normal to have to ask this question a few times, as the initial programmed response from the team member is to repeat her original message, “Yes, but I told you, I can’t!” Persevere!
Once the team member has considered the first freedom question, the response will usually identify a specific benefit. In this case it might be something like, “I’ll be able to earn more commission – and keep you off my back, too.”
Keep asking until the employee identifies really strong leverage from a series of benefits. Feel-good is a major lever. “I suppose I’d feel better about achieving some up-sells.”
Once you get the positive response, ask the Simpsons’ Doh! question: “Well, would you like that?” If your team member has any urge to change her work-life for the better the answer will be, “Yes, of course I would!”
We then ask the second freedom question, “Well, what would have to happen to make that happen?”
The only possible answer (apart from “I don’t know”) to this question is a positive suggestion of some sort, typically a fairly high-level generality such as, “I’d need to feel more confident about it.”
This is a common response from folk who have difficulty achieving work performance targets.
We have helped the team member reach a stage where she has begun to consider options other than not being able to do that thing that she says she can’t do, and we have accessed a response that is ‘generally’ positive. Now we are about to probe a little deeper and clear away the generalisations she presented. All we do is repeat the same question again!
Team Leader: “What would have to happen for you to feel more confident in up-selling?”
Employee: “I’d need to know a bit more about the way the insurance policies work. I wasn’t there the day it was explained.”
The employee may feel the need to justify why she can’t do that thing, and that’s cool. Remember though, we don’t need to know why she can’t; we just want to help her to do it in future, right?
Team Leader: “Oh, OK! So, what would have to happen for you to know more about the insurance policies?”
Employee: “I’d need some training.”
Team Leader: “Yes, that’s right, I guess you would.”
The ‘that’s right’ language pattern confirms that the employee is making useful choices.
“What would have to happen for you to get some training?”
Note how the same core question (What would have to happen?) is being asked again and again. Elegant communicators will change the question very slightly so that it is not perceived as being repeated.
Employee: “I suppose I could ask Jane in the Training Team. She could arrange for me to get on the next session.”
Team Leader: “She could, that’s true. How could you go about asking her?”
Employee: “I’ll just ask her when I next see her.”
We now have an agreed action plan mapped out. What we don’t have is any form of timescale or sense of urgency.
Team Leader: “Excellent. When will that be?”
Employee: “Oh, pretty soon, I should think.” (This is a generalisation – there is no specificity about when.)
Team Leader: “How soon, specifically?” (‘Specifically’ is a most useful precision tool.)
Employee: “Tomorrow.”
Now we need to summarise our agreement and reinforce the plan.
There are two effective alternatives to the But Monster. One contributor had it spot on when she suggested the use of ‘and’.
When you decide to avoid using the word ‘but’ you can either ‘break the sentence’ and start a new one, or you can substitute the word ‘and’ in its place. Using the phrase ‘even better’ is a nice way to stay positive, and of course an upward tonality breathes positivity into any dialogue. It’s important to keep the tone up.
A second response that works really well as a But Monster alternative is ‘full stop’. It breaks the sentence into two parts, the first reflective and ego strengthening, the second suggesting an improvement opportunity:
“Your calls were good! (full stop, deep breath, new sentence.) You know, you could make your performance even better by suggesting one of our additional services as added value for the customer.”
The language we use in encouraging, coaxing and coaching team members is critical to the professionalism of service you offer.
The temptation to ‘tell, tell, tell’ is understandable; unfortunately ‘telling’ doesn’t always stick. If a ‘telling’ strategy is not working after a number of attempts, it makes sense to use a different development strategy. After all, if you keep using the same strategy you’ll probably keep getting the same results.
Whenever you feel yourself about to use this phrase think about alternatives.
“Maybe it’s the way I’m telling?”
Could I demonstrate? Could I show? Could I sit alongside? Could someone else help this person in a different, more effective way? Could I document the process better? Would a script help this person? A flowchart? A checklist? A mind map? Could we use recordings to help? A recording of ‘excellence’ for her to model? What about a ‘buddy’ to help? Have we explored the reasons for the blockages? Better still, have we explored what the team member thinks would help? Have we used the Can’t to Can™ model? Have we congratulated her when she has got it right? Have we highlighted the ‘structure’ of her success when she has got it right? What’s going on in her mind?
These are just some of the alternatives to consider when ‘telling’ clearly isn’t working.
This is about the patronising language used (often with the best intentions) when trying to help a colleague.
People become defensive or resistant when patronised. It is an ineffective method of influencing. It leads the team members to agree to take action despite an underpinning resentment about how they have been communicated with, and consequential begrudging compliance.
Of course, these are only my suggestions, and I know from ‘Five phrases’ not everyone will agree with these approaches.
Many of the world’s top brands are already using these language patterns and that’s good enough for me. If you think you can use them, great. If you think it’s hogwash, that’s great too.
Written by: Nick Drake-Knight
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